It’s Not You It’s Me

“You need to make mindful changes for your peace of mind.”
~Modesta Tonan

”Sorry, It’s not you it’s me.” These five words seem to say it all for me. It simply states, a means to a peaceful end and not laying blame on anyone but yourself and your own expectations of what “YOU” think you deserve.
Once you accept that you need to make mindful changes for your own peace of mind. Then you can try to peacefully disconnect from certain people and things, and there is nothing wrong with that. Why do we find it so difficult to cut the toxic out of our life? Who are we protecting? Is there an easier way to leave what doesn’t serve you a better purpose?
The short answer to all of these questions is this. “We attract what we are.” You have to give good feelings first to receive good feelings, and some people will never give that or get that. I am definitely not saying that peacefully disconnecting is an easy thing to do. In modern terms “deleting” people from your life may come at a cost, but nothing that is worth something ever comes easy. You and you alone have to make the choice to make the change to achieve personal peace.
So in writing this blog I can tell you that a few years ago, I made the decision to make some tough choices and ultimately small changes, to start the journey back to me. Peacefully disconnecting, and disengaging for my peace of mind. I can truthfully tell you, my mindful choices have forced me to take a good look at myself, and fully accept who I am flaws and all. I know that perfection does not exist in my world, and that I am a constant work in progress. Actually, I never want to reach perfection. Where do you go after that? Isn’t life all about finding out who you are and what your purpose is by your choices, successes, and failures. The luxury of being comfortable only comes after the discomfort.
Deciding to do the things I want to do, and not what I think others want of me, is quite liberating.
Making choices to surround myself with those who raise me up to a higher vibration, and have similar interest and values as me, as opposed to those who continuously bring me down and leave me feeling sad and drained. Peacefully disconnecting means knowing what I want in my life and letting go of the things I don’t want or need any more, and most importantly knowing what it takes to maintain a state of “happy peace”

So once again I choose to end this year the same way I will begin the new one, by peacefully disconnecting.

P.S… Please remember this is not personal. While I appreciated getting to know you, and thank you for the life lessons you have taught me both good and bad. I’ve decided it’s best for my personal wellbeing if I avoid seeing or hearing about you…
I truly wish you the best in your life and I also wish you happy peace.

P.S.S… Please feel free to peacefully disconnect with me too. I promise I won’t take it personally either.

“To find peace, you have to be willing to lose your connection with the people, places, and things that create all the noise in your life.”

Love Love
Modesta Tonan

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